I'm not sure I can help with the broccoli. That is a new problem to me. The tomatoes, however, are a different story. Do you have any dogs that get into the garden? Do the kids go in there? (I know I was my mother's garden nemisis when I was a wee one.) Or how about the cats? Unless you have extremely gusty days, I'd look for a human/animal component for the buds dropping. Also, try touching one yourself. If it falls off after a gentle brush, then there might be a problem with the plant.

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that happened to me too, with the brocolli and cauliflower. the deer ate then down to nothing almost, they grew back huge but only one cauliflower grew. i have heard of this elswhere on the net, no answer yet. we had lots of rain and very cool temps but i thought brocolli that humm. now i am very courious.

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